Our greatest strengths are our greatest weaknesses.

Sometimes our strength comes from our weakness. When I heard this topic the first thing that comes to my mind is honest, love and money. These are the things that we cannot live without them, they are our life, and we can’t afford not to have them in our lives, but sometimes they break our hearts and bring us down.

Even if we try we cannot run away from them, they are our strength but they can turn to be our weakness as well. You love and trust someone with all of your heart, but he/ she will be the one who break your heart, what do you do? As a woman of this century I know how it feels to be heart broken, I can tell you that crying won’t solve anything or make you feel better but it will make things more difficult for you. Then there’s one more heart breaker that is called money, where can you go without money, because for everything you must have, even if you go for an interview you must have transport money and you must look good, to tell you the truth without money is the same as you are not living in this planet, maybe underground. In my culture even if you want to ask a permission to marry a girl, before you even talk you must put R1000.00 in the table, then you can start talking.   

We love, we trust and love money as well they come as a greatest strength to us, but they are our weakness. You must be careful for what you want, what you hope for and the possible consequences that lead to it.

How to survive on a minimum wage

You may find this very funny, but there are people who cannot have control of their money, its true what they say the more you get higher income, the more you your problems (financial) arise, why?

The answer(s) is very simple:  You are unable to control your money, want more expensive things that are more than your income, your friends, family are putting more pressure on you (peer pressure), you can’t budget for what you have and lastly you can’t accept yourself for who you are and what you are. Competition is everywhere you have to learn to deal with it or else you will end up being financial depression or on financial crisis and depression is not good for your healthy.  I know things are very expensive in these days, but it’s always good to start doing something else that will add up to your income, but it must be legal, like starting your own business.  You cannot always depend on your work income only, because it may not be enough.

As human beings we have this perception of saying money is not always enough, some people think that surviving on minimum wage is impossible, especially in today’s economy, the key is to have a plan and to know where you’re and where you’re going so that there are no financial surprises in the way. Start budget for what you have and work on it. Remember you only have one life.

Try a Cliché

Life is full of different clichés, and we as humans we came across those clichés, some are good some are bad for us, because we believe in words rather than action. If somebody says I love how easy or difficult to believe that person if he or she meant what she/ he says.

I’ve been fooled, you’ve be fooled by people who pretend to love us but they just want to hurt us more and more, when s it going to stop, today, tomorrow or never. You know what it’s up to us to stop that. Some people cannot differentiate between love and money. Each everyday you hear people talking about their love life and after that they talk about money, on the relationship they say it goes together. If we say that, then what is a difference between you and people who are selling their bodies for money (prostitutes?) because what I know if you are in love with someone, in order for you to get money you must sleep with him, there is no way he will give you his money without sleeping with him and that is the truth, I mean I see this things everyday and unfortunately its not good at, because you end – up having HIV or other diseases, this happens mostly to young women of this world including teenagers.

We need to be careful you have a good future ahead of you, don’t spoil it. Wait for your time don’t rush. The world is in our hands.

Feelings follow behaviour

Our behavior, actions and words determine the feelings we have. The way in which each person reacts to a specific situation is largely based on their own personal judgement and conditions, our behavior do not only determine our own feelings, but those of the people around us as well. It all starts with feeling then follow actions.

Most of us think that feelings only work when it comes to love only, but its not always the case. Everything we do is based on what we feel; bear with me when I say even a one month baby have feelings. People often misunderstood the fact that feelings follow behaviour.  The feeling of waking up early and get to work in time, the feeling of driving a car in a high speed and end up causing accident or hurting yourself, feeling of eating a pie every morning. Every feeling always follows behaviour, before you think about what you want to do, always think about what you feel, because some decisions can be based on what you feel and remember feelings don’t lie, because they are coming from your heart, your soul, your body and your mind. You start with what you feel then follow your actions.

Sometimes our feelings are often governed by people who around us or influence us in life and people we spend most of the time with.

The story of my Life

My name is Fikiswa Mlandu, well you probably know me by now on I am blog and the blog about me, but I’m not going to tell you about where I come, what I like, who I am and so on. I’m going to tell you about my life and the experiences I had gone through in life; you can call it ups and downs of life.

I live in township called Khayelitsha in Cape Town. I am a born again Christian, I work part- time (during weekends and holidays), study. I work hard to be where I am today, although I still have a long way to go. I grew up in Cape Town, study and work in Cape Town. I live with my parents and my two siblings. My parents have been married for more than 25 years and they love each other. I started my primary in 1994, I was very happy as it was my first day wearing a school uniform. In 2000 my father lost his permanent job, things started to change; my parents were fighting all the time, because no money or income was coming in. It was terrible experience at that time, as I was going to High School 2001. I never thought of dropping out. The next coming years things got worse than ever, we struggle a lot; sometimes I even ask my self why my parents bought me into this world. I really hated myself, I had a grudge, anger, but you know what I always told my self one day I will be out of this situation and that encourages me to work hard for everything that I want, nothing comes cheap in life. My family is what motivates me.

I can write three books about my life; this is just an introduction or summary, but all I can say is during all the difficulties I went through God was and still my life savoir. 

  

It is better to practice a little than talk a lot

We all know who are those people who talk a lot but no action and we must not pretend like we don’t know. We hear them everyday on Radio’s TV making all the promises in the world and we often fall for it, some of you may think about politicians only, but you are wrong.

They say action speaks louder than words, that doesn’t only relate to politicians only, but yourself as well. This year you made a promise to yourself that you will do this and that, but how many have you managed to do it. We as human beings we talk a lot, making promises to our children, families, friends and ourselves, but when those promises are not fulfilled we ended up very hurt and hurt those who close to us.

     

‘’Talk is cheap and it is true. Many who talk do it solely for the attention and thus we never see any action. Lectures, doctors, nurse, lawyers talk a lot and they will always do, because it’s part of their job. What would happen if the whole world cannot talk for one day, trust you don’t want to know, but that day will be called QUITE DAY, I wonder how business like Retail and client services will cope

         

                                                        

What makes you smile?

Good things, sometimes bad things can make you smile also, you never know, what really makes you smile or happy, but I can mention few.

Be surrounded by people who care and love you, for who you are, they are my family, and my friends. I’m who I am today because of them.

·        Knowing that God loves me, is important more than anything

·        Living a good healthy

·        Taking care of myself

·        Getting what I want

·        See people laughing

·        Doing something nice for other people

·        Good compliment by my customers

·        Being early at work

·        Sleeping when I’m tired

·        Sharing food, information, knowledge, etc.

·        Reading my bible, books, and meets my deadlines.

·        Listening to Gospel music and go to church, oh!!! I miss that so much.

·        Being appreciated for what you’ve done

·        Exceed in my exam paper.

I can not mention all but what I can tell is if you don’t have friends, family or people who care and love you, you will never find happiness, so you don’t have anything to smile about, yes! You can have all the money in the world, but there will be always something missing in your heart. It’s true what they say you will never buy love, friends and happiness.