Feelings follow behaviour

Our behavior, actions and words determine the feelings we have. The way in which each person reacts to a specific situation is largely based on their own personal judgement and conditions, our behavior do not only determine our own feelings, but those of the people around us as well. It all starts with feeling then follow actions.

Most of us think that feelings only work when it comes to love only, but its not always the case. Everything we do is based on what we feel; bear with me when I say even a one month baby have feelings. People often misunderstood the fact that feelings follow behaviour.  The feeling of waking up early and get to work in time, the feeling of driving a car in a high speed and end up causing accident or hurting yourself, feeling of eating a pie every morning. Every feeling always follows behaviour, before you think about what you want to do, always think about what you feel, because some decisions can be based on what you feel and remember feelings don’t lie, because they are coming from your heart, your soul, your body and your mind. You start with what you feel then follow your actions.

Sometimes our feelings are often governed by people who around us or influence us in life and people we spend most of the time with.

The story of my Life

My name is Fikiswa Mlandu, well you probably know me by now on I am blog and the blog about me, but I’m not going to tell you about where I come, what I like, who I am and so on. I’m going to tell you about my life and the experiences I had gone through in life; you can call it ups and downs of life.

I live in township called Khayelitsha in Cape Town. I am a born again Christian, I work part- time (during weekends and holidays), study. I work hard to be where I am today, although I still have a long way to go. I grew up in Cape Town, study and work in Cape Town. I live with my parents and my two siblings. My parents have been married for more than 25 years and they love each other. I started my primary in 1994, I was very happy as it was my first day wearing a school uniform. In 2000 my father lost his permanent job, things started to change; my parents were fighting all the time, because no money or income was coming in. It was terrible experience at that time, as I was going to High School 2001. I never thought of dropping out. The next coming years things got worse than ever, we struggle a lot; sometimes I even ask my self why my parents bought me into this world. I really hated myself, I had a grudge, anger, but you know what I always told my self one day I will be out of this situation and that encourages me to work hard for everything that I want, nothing comes cheap in life. My family is what motivates me.

I can write three books about my life; this is just an introduction or summary, but all I can say is during all the difficulties I went through God was and still my life savoir.