Feelings follow behaviour

Our behavior, actions and words determine the feelings we have. The way in which each person reacts to a specific situation is largely based on their own personal judgement and conditions, our behavior do not only determine our own feelings, but those of the people around us as well. It all starts with feeling then follow actions.

Most of us think that feelings only work when it comes to love only, but its not always the case. Everything we do is based on what we feel; bear with me when I say even a one month baby have feelings. People often misunderstood the fact that feelings follow behaviour.  The feeling of waking up early and get to work in time, the feeling of driving a car in a high speed and end up causing accident or hurting yourself, feeling of eating a pie every morning. Every feeling always follows behaviour, before you think about what you want to do, always think about what you feel, because some decisions can be based on what you feel and remember feelings don’t lie, because they are coming from your heart, your soul, your body and your mind. You start with what you feel then follow your actions.

Sometimes our feelings are often governed by people who around us or influence us in life and people we spend most of the time with.

The story of my Life

My name is Fikiswa Mlandu, well you probably know me by now on I am blog and the blog about me, but I’m not going to tell you about where I come, what I like, who I am and so on. I’m going to tell you about my life and the experiences I had gone through in life; you can call it ups and downs of life.

I live in township called Khayelitsha in Cape Town. I am a born again Christian, I work part- time (during weekends and holidays), study. I work hard to be where I am today, although I still have a long way to go. I grew up in Cape Town, study and work in Cape Town. I live with my parents and my two siblings. My parents have been married for more than 25 years and they love each other. I started my primary in 1994, I was very happy as it was my first day wearing a school uniform. In 2000 my father lost his permanent job, things started to change; my parents were fighting all the time, because no money or income was coming in. It was terrible experience at that time, as I was going to High School 2001. I never thought of dropping out. The next coming years things got worse than ever, we struggle a lot; sometimes I even ask my self why my parents bought me into this world. I really hated myself, I had a grudge, anger, but you know what I always told my self one day I will be out of this situation and that encourages me to work hard for everything that I want, nothing comes cheap in life. My family is what motivates me.

I can write three books about my life; this is just an introduction or summary, but all I can say is during all the difficulties I went through God was and still my life savoir. 

  

It is better to practice a little than talk a lot

We all know who are those people who talk a lot but no action and we must not pretend like we don’t know. We hear them everyday on Radio’s TV making all the promises in the world and we often fall for it, some of you may think about politicians only, but you are wrong.

They say action speaks louder than words, that doesn’t only relate to politicians only, but yourself as well. This year you made a promise to yourself that you will do this and that, but how many have you managed to do it. We as human beings we talk a lot, making promises to our children, families, friends and ourselves, but when those promises are not fulfilled we ended up very hurt and hurt those who close to us.

     

‘’Talk is cheap and it is true. Many who talk do it solely for the attention and thus we never see any action. Lectures, doctors, nurse, lawyers talk a lot and they will always do, because it’s part of their job. What would happen if the whole world cannot talk for one day, trust you don’t want to know, but that day will be called QUITE DAY, I wonder how business like Retail and client services will cope

         

                                                        

What makes you smile?

Good things, sometimes bad things can make you smile also, you never know, what really makes you smile or happy, but I can mention few.

Be surrounded by people who care and love you, for who you are, they are my family, and my friends. I’m who I am today because of them.

·        Knowing that God loves me, is important more than anything

·        Living a good healthy

·        Taking care of myself

·        Getting what I want

·        See people laughing

·        Doing something nice for other people

·        Good compliment by my customers

·        Being early at work

·        Sleeping when I’m tired

·        Sharing food, information, knowledge, etc.

·        Reading my bible, books, and meets my deadlines.

·        Listening to Gospel music and go to church, oh!!! I miss that so much.

·        Being appreciated for what you’ve done

·        Exceed in my exam paper.

I can not mention all but what I can tell is if you don’t have friends, family or people who care and love you, you will never find happiness, so you don’t have anything to smile about, yes! You can have all the money in the world, but there will be always something missing in your heart. It’s true what they say you will never buy love, friends and happiness.

Wedding cake- in- the- middle- of- the- road

Who put it there? I can’t imagine what I would do if I saw a cake in the middle of the road, maybe I will eat it or pass it; I just don’t know what I will do. The cake its there waiting for me, maybe I will be best if I can be a good Samarian and  take it to the bakery store.

Imagine a big wedding cake right in front of you, mmm!!! I love cakes, I think I should buy recipe books on how to bake big wedding cakes, I don’t want to struggle when it’s my wedding, in fact I want to bake my own wedding cake

Although it’s a cake but to me it’s like a life time opportunity, when you seen an opportunity waiting for you, what do you do? Do you run away or you grab it immediately? Of course the answer is simple you grab it, as human beings we have this perception of saying ‘’opportunities like this comes once’’, if you miss it you will never get it back, so eating every piece of the cake alone its not a bad, never mind the kilos you will gain. Go out and eat that cake in the middle of the road.

it is a poor idea to lie to youself

We do that every day, it’s just that we don’t realise until you are in a situation where you are unable to come out, sometimes it’s the only way to learn from our mistakes, but do we really need to lie to ourselves?

When you lie to yourself you are actually just making everything worse than it really is and the problem or issue you have and dealing with it just becomes bigger and worse to overcome. I know it is very difficult to always be honest with yourself, we all struggle with that a lot, but, how can we overcome the human barrier of not lying to ourselves? In order to avoid lying to ourselves is to take a chair and look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself who am I, Why, What and How? This will help you to be honest with you, remember you are the only one who can build and destroy yourself

As human beings we need to fall in love with ourselves, learn to trust ourselves, in that way we can be able to have happiness, smile and love. Believe in yourself; don’t do something that will make you look like an idiot, know when something is right or wrong.

The sound of one hand clapping

                                   

You must start by asking yourself, what is the sound of one hand is clipping? The answer is very simple; the sound of one hand clapping is the sound of the other hand. One hand cannot clap without the other; even the sound of one hand cannot be heard. God gave us two hands not one.

Can you imagine what it will be like if we only have one hand, so this means the sound of one hand clapping is nothing.  We do not have the physical capacity to hear the sound of one hand clapping. Therefore, we have to recognize our human limitation. ‘’When we accept our human limitation, we can reconcile ourselves to the natural world, and can live in harmony with the universe.’’

To me the sound of one hand clapping means not to give up, things that may seem impossible, they can be possible. Who thought can have access to internet on our phones. Who knows maybe the next generation will have three hands instead of two right!!!!!! Then the next topic will be the sound of two hands clapping. Some people think one hand clapping means being silenced about something, although I never thought about that, but I think its true, this means one hand clapping it’s not good, if you have one hand clipping your life is imbalanced.

Go and ask yourself what would you do with one hand?